This entry was posted on 10/13/2010 12:45 PM and is filed under Disclaimer, news.
Well it has been a long time with nothing to really say other than respond to emails and stay in touch with Guardala victims. The BLOG says it has been 389 days since my last post and recent emails have encouraged me to head over to this old BLOG and make a few updates and statements.
Today is October 13, 2010. Life has moved on, yet there is still financial difficulty, felt day to day caused by Dave Guardala's actions a few years back and my foolish trust. The financial loss has had long term effects on life up to this date and likely for years to come.
But one comment I recently answered by email had to do with - no update from me and hurt all thru the blog. I promised this guy I would take a look at the blog and see if it needed any further statement. I took a look and decided I should respond to a few things right here - for the record.
The BLOG was written in real time. As the events unfolded, I wrote, Often the passion of the moment was very expressed as I wrote. Today things are very different. The anger and frustration has long since blown over. This event is not a life determining event for me. I have not even looked at the BLOG in ages and seldom ever talk about any of this anymore.
It was pretty life consuming when it was all happening, but life has gone on. Reading the BLOG, written as the event was rocking my world, could make a reader feel like I am still there with no updates. That is why I am writing.
This is not a Dave Guardala update but more a Greg Vail update.
I don't have any desire to go to dinner with Dave any time soon, but no longer have that feeling of wanting to smack him when the name is mentioned. Questions of forgiveness usually are associated with a statement that makes no sense. Forgive and Forget! It is not in the Bible. It is not even possible or healthy.
To forget bad things would be to remove the positive lessons learned from that event. It is also impossible to forget or even try to forget. Even the act of trying to forget is an action of remembering that which you are trying to forget. It just doesn't work.
I answered this very well meaning guy, with the lesson this taught me and with hopes that it could help others not make the same mistakes I made.
In a over simplified statement - I learned that it does not matter how much you admire someone or believe them. All business should be conducted with the same safe guards! Why would a friend ask you to do anything that is not fair, documented and safe??
If it is too good to be true - it is - regardless of who is saying it!
We all need to practice common sense when dealing with everyone. Yes we let stuff go and let it become the past. We can't rehearse the pain and mistakes of the past, punish ourselves for mistakes or seek vengeance for wrongs done. It only destroys us when we hold on to that crap. But we also rob ourselves of the lessons we might learn if we just try to forget these things. The best lessons we seem to learn are connected to our greatest failures.
Remember - hate is still a connection and is so unhealthy. Indifference is opposite of hate and love, which have a strange interaction with each other.
Read, learn and remember any lesson you might find in this blog. Peace to all.....
